Shapes of Love
Majid Ali, M.D.
Love arrives with many faces and in different shapes. Some faces are well masked. Some shapes morph freely.
On April 26, 2014. Earlier I some images of purple balloons floated on a Connecticut beach by seniors of a local high school. They were remembering one of their class fellows: Maren. She was slashed to death by a knife at the hands of a student who wanted her as her school prom companion.
I cannot plumb the grief of Maren’s family at the news of her murder. Was that horror a matter of biology or an issue of psychology? Did Maren’s mom process this information at some lofty mental level? Or was her agony profoundly organic? A dark, dark face of profound maternal bonding?
I do not have access to information about Maren’s murderer. What might have enraged one of Maren’s class fellows so as to drive him to her murder? What substances might have been flowing through his blood at that time? Was that a matter of biology or psychology?
A return to my questions in the beginning of this article: A young woman takes a look at her first newborn and experiences intense bonding. Is that a matter of biology or an issue of psychology? Does this bonding arise from months of shared biology or created by some elements of psychology? I am content letting the reader decide how does love fit into the theme of this series
Guru’s Love for the Disciples
History of “gurudoms,” has a harsh indictment for love of gurus for their disciples. It is never uncoditional love, not for too many years anyway. In the end it always degenerates into control of the followers by the guru. The most horrendous episodes of cruelty, torture, and crimes nearly always started with a man—woman rarely could match the evil of men in this field—who successfully cast themselves in the roles of gurus and saviors. Who do I allude to here? What biologic-pathologic conditions were they victims of? I leave these questions to the reader’s mind.
Practitioners’ Love for Patients Is Uneven Love
By “uneven love,” I do not mean uncoditional love. Clearly, some funds will be transfered from the patient to the practitioner, and that is the condition of that love.
Politicians’ Love for Voters
Whose love has been more dangerous in the history – gurus’ love for disciples or politician’s love for voters? Of course, the answer depends upon the readers’ choice of politicians and gurus, in the past or the present.
A Candle’s Love for Anxiety
Have you ever loved a candle? Have you ever experienced the love of a candle? How can you love a candle if you have never tried it? Have can you experience the love of a candle if you have never tried it? Please do not ask me to explain. This is one of the things that cannot be explained. It can only be done, known, and understood.
A Stone Solves the Anxiety problem
Have you ever asked a stone to solve the anxiety problem? Have you ever experienced the love of a stone? How can you love a stone if you have never tried it? Have can you experience the love of a stone if you have never tried it? What stone do I speak about? Where do you find such a stone? Next time you are in a field or a park, or simply walking anywhere, please pick up a stone, take it home, wash it if necessary, and put it where it can keep an eye at you.